Be Honest about How to Ask Him for money
Why do you ask him for money in the first place? Sit down to prioritize if it worth doing that before engaging him.
Never feel nervovous to ask him for money. We all have the same goal: to get what we want and need. In this case, your needs are money, and he is… well, whatever he wants to buy with that money!
Once you both know each other’s needs (and desires), it’s time for some negotiation.
But how do you negotiate in a way that will make him feel respected and still stay loved? How do you ask him for money without sounding like an entitled brat or making him mad? These tips will help!
1. Why do you ask him for money?
- Why do you need the money?
This is a simple one, but it’s worth asking the reasonnfor the money. Is it a short-term goal? This reason will guide you to be firm in asking him. Let him know how it can benefit both of you.
- How much will be enough?
This might sound obvious, but exactly how much cash do you need to cover your expenses? Ask for reasonable amount of money he can afford. Tell him the exact amount and let him be clear minded. Dont just fumble over the amount you need.
It may also be worthwhile asking if there are any other ways that he could help out financially. We do not have to be on loans because of help, just let him know the amount you need.
2. Is it really your business?
- Is it really your business?
If you and your boyfriend share a bank account, it’s only fair that he knows how much you need. Let him know the type of business you want to invest the money. If it is not meant for business, kindly specify.
If you have separate accounts, but your boyfriend gives you some cash out of the blue every once in a while, then you should probably ask him to sign over one of those checks so you can deposit it into a savings account instead of just pocketing the cash. In any case, if it’s not part of an agreed-upon arrangement between both parties (like splitting expenses 50/50), then asking questions can feel like prying into someone else’s private life.
3. How much do you need and when?
- How much do you need and when?
It is important to determine how much money you really need, and for what purpose. The amount of money that you request should be reasonable in comparison with other expenses related to the same activity. Also, avoid asking for too much money because there is a high chance that your partner may not give it to you at all.
Asking for too little will also make it seem as though you are not being honest or sincere about your needs in some way. You can ask him if they want to help out with paying for things like meals or gas for example, but don’t ask them if they would be willing to pay off your credit card bill!
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4. How will you pay him back?
The last thing you want to do is ask him for money and then not pay it back. You don’t want to look like a deadbeat, so make sure that you’re prepared to pay him back in full with interest if necessary.
If you can’t pay him back, don’t ask for the money! Instead of asking for a loan, try negotiating a different arrangement.
For instance: “I need $1,500 to be able to take care of my basic needs, especially my rent. My job security is shaking now.” Or “I need $1,500 from you now because the vet bill for our dog was higher than we expected.”
5. How important is it to ask him for money?
The fifth tip is to ask you how important it is to get the money.
Consider how urgent your issue is before asking him for support. And if it’s really important, then consider asking him for money. If you don’t get the money and still need it, think of other ways. You can find that money on your own or with help from someone else (like a family member).
If he gives you the money try to show appreciations. He may even celebrates with you for solving a problem. Once he does so, then celebrates by doing something fun together (like spending some time at Disneyland).
6. What are your relationship goals?
- What are your relationship goals?
Set up what intention you want the relationship to go and the target you all set for your relationship. If you actually want the relationship to last, don’t consistently as for money if not, you will be seen as a gold digger.
- Do you want to be together for a long time?
Those who want to be in a sustainable relationship see it better to build financial muscle that can hardly be hit with any challenges. What is yours about?
- Do you want to get married and have children?
- Do you want to live together or move in together?
7. What do you plan to do with the money?
- Don’t ask for money if you don’t need it.
- This is a no-brainer, but the golden rule applies: If you don’t have a plan for what to do with the money, don’t ask him for it.
- Think about why exactly you’re asking him in the first place. Are you looking for help because of an emergency or an unforeseen expense? Or do you just want more spending cash? Make sure that all three factors—the reason, amount, and payment schedule—are aligned before making your request.
8. How will he benefit from giving you the money?
You should think about the ways in which he will benefit from giving you the money. Maybe he feels good about helping you, maybe he feels relief that he is not responsible for your situation, maybe it makes him feel like he has more control over your situation, or maybe it makes him feel like he is helping you to become more independent.
If your relationship with this person has been rocky because of money issues (this could be a parent or sibling), then giving them some kind of control over the situation may help. The two of you can come to terms with how things are going and move forward in a better way.
9. Are you sure that he can afford to give you the money?
Ask for an amount that you think he can get for you. Dont just ask because you need it, look at his finances. If he is not able, then don’t ask him for the money until he does.
Similarly, if your friend is in debt or has other financial issues that might prevent him from being able to pay back what he owes you (or worse), don’t lend him any more than necessary—you don’t want him going into debt just because you asked him for some cash!
10. Be Grateful
Be grateful for what he does for you already, and for what he gives you freely of his own accord … but don’t take it for granted! Know your worth, and don’t let anyone tell you differently!
Asking for money is a very delicate subject so make sure you follow these guidelines
Asking for money is a very delicate subject, so make sure you follow these guidelines:
- Be honest and open. Tell him why you need the money, without getting into too much detail. If it’s for something frivolous, like a new pair of boots or a long-dreamed-of trip to Thailand, then don’t pretend it’s for something more important like rent or school supplies. No one likes being lied to or misled about their financial situation!
- Be prepared to give an explanation of why you want the money — and be ready with any documentation he’ll need (like bank statements) so that he can understand your situation fully before making any decisions on whether or not he’ll lend it out again in the future.
- Be prepared to be turned down — sometimes people just aren’t comfortable lending out funds due to past experiences where they’ve gotten burned financially by other borrowers before them! Don’t take this personally though; it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with either party involved here – just move on with life until another opportunity presents itself later on down the road when both parties are ready and willing again.”
Conclusion
You should know that the question of how to ask him for money is a very delicat. Therefore, you need to make sure that you are doing it in the right way. Not only do you want to be polite but also respectful towards your partner because after all, they are the ones who make all things possible for you. We hope this article will help you understand how important it is to get this right as well as give some useful tips on what not to do when asking him for some extra cash!
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