I Love My Ex After Break Up, What Should I Do?
Do you still have feelings for your ex, after you two have a breakup?
Do you wish to get your ex back?
Hmmm, in relationships, sometimes some occurrences or situations can lead you to break up with your best partner.
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The love you feel for someone does not disappear into the pale air just because you broke up. I work with a lot of people who ask me, “I love my ex after we’ve broken up?”
It can be extremely frustrating, especially if you are still suffering from a breakup. I have worked with people who still love their exes after years of being apart.
Whether are you two broke up six months ago or five years ago, you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself for still having feelings for your ex. Love is a complex emotion that takes time to develop, but it also takes a lot of time for it to disappear.
The important thing to do is to think about where these feelings are coming from and to determine what you want to do about it.
If you wish to get her back, then wipe your tears. I wrote this article to help you steer through this challenging situation and to define a lasting or concrete plan that can assist you to reach your goals.
But the question is, why do I still have to love for my ex-partner?
As I said earlier, the love you have for someone is not going to disappear overnight. Especially, if you encountered powerful love memories with your ex-partner.
A very good friend of mine came to me and was sad and pessimistic. I tried to find out what is bordering on him and as a result, making him sad and dejected. He waited for a while and said, ” Hmm, Frank, I love my ex after breakup“.
I quickly asked, are you not the one who said you don’t want to see her again? He replied, “Yes, I said it, but I still can’t take my mind off her. I have been thinking about her since the day we separated.
I tried severally to stop thinking about her but to no avail. I still can’t erase her from my mind.
It has affected my efficacy at work. I think about her every blessed day. I almost get sacked from work last Friday. Charle, I badly need her back. Without her, I feel empty and the only way I can get back to my sense is to see her again.
I was like wow! Why have you allowed love to eat deeply into you?
“Loving someone begins with loving yourself”- Atta Frank
Never go into a relationship with all your heart, until you get to a point where both of you understand each other and realized you can’t be separated.
To get her back depends on you and the things that made you both segregated. I know she has dug a deep hole in your heart and has left everlasting memory in your mind but hey! , it’s not over yet.
I will like you to make decisions based on your happiness.
If you are suffering deeply as a result of the breakup, we need to take a look at the amount of happiness in your life. I bring this up because if you are still suffering because of the loss of your ex and it is hindering your day-to-day happiness, it means that your ex is holding too much power over your happiness.
In essence, it means that deep down, you believe that you need your ex to be happy. The problem, of course, is that you are handing over this power to someone who is not with you – someone who should not have this responsibility whether they are with you or not.
It is okay that you still have strong feelings for an ex, but it is very important to remember that you have a lot of control over the amount of happiness and satisfaction you have in your personal life. This person’s presence should not dictate your quality of life.
So if you are still not over an ex, we need to focus on generating more happiness in your life. This is true for any person reading this article. You have to build a foundation that you are proud of to move forward.
A lot of people allow themselves to make the mistake of believing that they will never be happy without their ex. If you tell yourself that you will never be happy without this person by your side, then you will never be happy without this person by your side!
What’s more, you probably won’t succeed in getting back together with them because you’re not building the proper platform.
For you to be truly happy in your life after this breakup, you have to work on actively improving your quality of life. This will help you to feel more in control, and if you want your ex back, this is exactly how we’ll begin to attract him or her back.
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